MISSING EACH OTHER BY DESIGN

Do you remember playing with magnets in science class as a kid? More specifically, how they snapped together when turned just right, but pushed violently away when they faced the same direction? No matter how hard we tried to force them together, they resisted, always missing each other by just enough.

That reminds me of us. A connection so strong it kept drawing us together, but only able to exist when we weren’t facing each other. Craving the comfort of the connection we felt once before, we attempted to connect while facing each other, but every time we just kept missing. The more we reached, the more the pressure built between us, forcing one or both of us to propel forward but past the other,never able to meet in the middle. Maybe it’s because, by design, we were never supposed to get there.

Think about it: when you place two magnets with enough distance between them, they’re able to face each other without an issue, but if pushed even an inch closer, the force between them will cause one of the magnets to shift positions and snap together.

I think in our case, we hoped attraction would be enough to connect us, but we didn’t realize that was only the first step. Real connection - whether with family, friends, or a significant other - comes with a push and pull. Sometimes it’s difficult, uncomfortable, and confusing. But I’ve learned that attraction alone isn’t what makes things stay. Some things align perfectly, and others keep missing each other… maybe by design.